Just a few thoughts, self delusions, etc.. below
After the past two weeks going out with non community guys I know(who are all pretty decent with women... just not cold approaching in a bar) and a few community guys I had never met before... this really got drilled into me. See one thing I kept noticing that I hadn't before - EVERYONE of them said something a long the lines of "Man we need some chicks" or "That chick is fucking hot! I think she's the hottest girl I've ever seen!" etc.... the thing is... NONE of them did anything about it. What I noticed is that every time this would happen, it would be put me in a "fuck it" mindset where I would go open the set, just to do it - I didn't even care, I just did it just to do it. This put me in an awesome state and that bubble ended up forming without me thinking about it. Thinking back on it now this probably comes from my competitive mindset I carry - not a super healthy way to get in state(If you can't/won't then I will).
The second part about approaching... I use to get this for like the first year to year and a half. Now it only happens when - I'm at a bar and really tired/don't feel like being there/just don't care or when people start telling me I should approach... like non pua friends who know about this shit and always want to see it in action. I don't like to approach while eating/in the gym. I don't like to "open sets" at things like sporting events, house parties, social events, etc... It's stupid - in these environments you shouldn't be trying to approach and trying to get attraction and TRYING anything... you should just be. Just chill and be a social person. This is where all my other friends shine - in scenarios where there really is zero social pressure. On the flip side you see a girl you really want.... making a B-line to her and opening must be done.
It's about separating your life. I think you really only start running into these problems when you get so wrapped up in this shit you start (sub)consciously taking on the pick up artist identity.
