she got my number?

[Seanwaan]

ok so last night i was at the library and i saw this bangin little asian chick
id say she was about an 8. i wanted to do a direct approach and went to do it but there was this fatty standing way too close to her and i didnt wanna feel weird. so i made a pass. 2 or 3 mins go by and the asian is still there so i do the DA and she gets all shy and i start asking her about herself. the cool things is that she gave me all kinds of IOI's. facing me in convo, smiling, giggling, touching hair.

the biggest thing that happened tho was i didnt know exactly where to go with convo but when we got to pauses and i was stuck for topics she would ask me stuff.

eventually i go for the "you seem pretty cool. i wonder if we can continue this convo?" she says "do you have a cell phone?"

the weird part is she got my # only. i tried handing her my phone but she had none of it. what does that mean?

[Uncle Jesse]

Usually this is not good. I had this happen this weekend, but a bit worse (girl claimed she did not even have a phone). She hasn't called! You never know though, I've also had HBs that basically did the same thing you are describing and did call, but generally, it's worthy of being a red flag.

If you generate enough attraction/interest, usually she will want you to have her info.

Keep us posted.

UJ

[AsianEyes]

I'd be more concerned (not in a bad way) of those pauses in between stuff you had to say.  Don't always feel pressure to continue the conversation.  Sometimes, just look at her as if you're expecting her to say something.  Sure this goes against the 90/10 rule, but you shouldn't always be the one with the pressure on you to move the conversation along.  It's normal to do this.  Interpersonal communication is, by definition, transactional.  Also, if you still feel weird doing this, this will help to desensitize you to social pressure, if nothing else.  You should never be searching for cool things to say...let the convo flow like you're talking to a friend.  if you have nothing to say, just sit back and don't say anything.  If you have something you really want to say and get out, say it.

Hope this helps.

Oh, and the fact that she continued the convo in between the pauses could mean two things: she was being polite and felt the social pressure herself, or she was really into you and wanted to know more about you.

[Seanwaan]

i think she was worried in why i was just going up to a stranger and proclaiming she is beautiful.
and all i can do is wait which sux but... cest la vie